Rants.

[Fruitfly]

Quote:I skimmed over all that you wrote but I do agree. About it all :] Who I was at 14 on here is NOT what I am now at 21. It makes me feel better to know there is hope for some of the young ladies on this forum seeing how immature I once was...and sometimes still am. I'm an emotional thinker though and I react inappropriately with my emotions sometimes but that's in my entire family so I swear it's genetic lol

Well, part of it is probably genetic, part is probably hormonal, and part is probably due to Western thought, which tends to catagorize things in terms of dichotomies or dyads - extreme opposites. This leads to black and white thinking (making people all bad or all good).

One of the things a psyche told me when I was young is to distance myself from my emotions, to sit back and observe them as they pass, like watching the clouds in the sky. This distance enables me to identify emotions that are consistent with reality and emotions that are inconsistent with reality - for instance, depression. If we learn to question our emotions rather than take them stock and barrel as truth, then we can learn to manage them.

In short, we learn to think about them, not just experience them.

This takes some practice but I bet it will help you, Stephanie. Go ahead and give it a whirl - watch yourself as you feel.